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You building or you bs'n???

Updated: May 5, 2022

You ever went after a job, so pumped up, motivated to begin only to learn that you hate the It? You couldn't believe how much you wanted it, how much you felt it would make your life better and yet you hate even getting up to go...Just me??? Doubt it.

I believe most of us have experienced this in some way or another, even if not about a job. Perhaps a relationship? That one person you thought you’d spend forever with and no matter what, you never felt completely fulfilled even after you got them. Lack of motivation can attack all areas of your life, not just your career.

So let’s talk. Why is it that almost 8 out of 10 millennials list lack of motivation as a reason behind goal incompletion? It’s because we don’t set the correct ones 🤷🏽‍♀️

Goals are not just a simple thing you want to do or have. It must be a set of actions along with it to help you develop a plan and follow through. You must develop your simple goals into SMART goals. In order to create a goal that can transform into a plan, the goal has to be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time specific. A simple goal could be to lose 20 pounds. To transform this goal I can say, I will lose 20 pounds by June 15, 2020 by consuming 1800 calories daily and working out 4 times a week. Now I have a SMART goal that can develop into a plan by meal prepping, calorie counting, and making a workout plan and regimen.

We have to make sure we are setting goals with a sense of purpose. Our goals must make sense. When we set goals with no sense of purpose besides an accomplishment to brag about, or just to see if we can do it, we lose the motivation because it does not align with our core values. Examples of core values are integrity, honesty, and diligence. Everyone has foundational or core values. These values are basic beliefs, or moral codes, we have that shape our thoughts, behaviors, actions and reactions. Foundational values often determine how our relationships go, internal and external conflicts, and what we like.

We create goals that conflict with our internal values, so no wonder we are unmotivated! We really don't like nor have an emotional connection to the goal in the first place. This causes inner and outer conflict, because we are so unfulfilled, it spreads to other ares of our lives.

I challenge my fellow millennials to start understanding your sense of purpose, especially during this pandemic and time of solitude. Take the time out to understand what things are most important to you and how your life reflects those things, and in what way they do not.

Now is the time to ask yourself, are you building or are you bs'n? Take a quick mental reflection on your life, where you thought you'd be at this age, what you have to show for your career, your love life, your finances. Take this time that we have to reflect on your life path and what you are doing to take the best steps. If you don't know where to start, use the methods below, and allow me to guide you.

There are a few ways to become more motivated

  • Finding your “why”, gaining a sense of purpose- taking the time to think of all the things you want in life and the people you want to make proud and using them as your driving force.

  • Giving yourself incentives when you complete your goals.

  • Creating vision boards

  • Creating gratitude lists

  • But one of the best ways to become and stay committed is by having that mentor there, cheering you on, allowing you to learn from your mistakes, and helping you make your dreams manifest into reality. A mentor or life coach can help you become the best version of yourself by providing you with an accountability partner and giving you the keys to tackle an imbalanced work/life schedule, improve your relationships, and getting you motivated to take on life’s obstacles. I know we like to think we can do it all on our own, and you are well in your rights to do so, but consider the possibilities in that one change creating a significant impact on your life. Read the stats below and book your first FREE CONSULTATION at the end of this blog.

"It is my goal to help motivate any millennials their sense of purpose. Don’t hesitate to reach out to me to help you on your way. Contact and subscribe below." -Jay Lovelii


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