Simply put, men run because we chase them. Even though I have moved and grown from this mindset, I used to be a chaser. I was the one to initiate conversation, plan dates, basically take care of a man (throw up). My how I have grown! What I found is that men have a definitive role, especially if he is an alpha male. The hunt, the competitiveness and the success of gaining something they earned and worked hard for is what makes men feel manly. When you are giving too much of yourself, too available, too independent, too NEEDY, men HATE it. The fact is, the harder you are to get, the more they will want you. That's not to say be a bitch and be unavailable at all times, it means be dainty yet mysterious. Keep busy with your own life and goals. STOP CARING SO MUCH! and let that man EARN you sis. A lot of women have a hard time with this because patriarchy has women taking on masculine roles and not being able to differentiate from their feminine selves. We begin to love like men and that's not working.